Dads in the Labour Room - Birth Partner Tips for Edinburgh & The Lothians

Guys … How to Nail Being a Dad and Birth Partner

Congratulations, Dad-to-be! Your partner is pregnant, and life is about to change in the most incredible way. But let’s be honest - while all the focus is usually on mum, it can sometimes feel like dads are just along for the ride.

Here’s the truth: you’re not a spare part. You’re a vital part of your partner’s birth team, and the support you bring in labour can make a huge difference.

First: Take Care of Yourself

You can’t support someone else if you’re running on empty. Bring your A-game by packing a small “dad bag” with essentials:

• Toiletries & medication

• Snacks & drinks

• Change for vending machines

• Phone charger & entertainment (labour can be long!)

• A change of clothes — labour rooms can be hot, so think t-shirt/shorts

👉 Top tip: labour isn’t just about her comfort - if you’re comfortable too, you’ll be calmer and more present.

Supporting Your Partner in Labour

Birth partners aren’t just there for logistics. Evidence shows that continuous support in labour reduces the need for pain relief, lowers intervention rates, and increases positive birth experiences.

Ways you can support:

• Help her try different positions.

• Offer massages to boost oxytocin and ease tension.

• Keep her hydrated and encourage rest.

• Stay calm and reassuring - your energy matters.

If a caesarean birth is needed, you’ll likely be allowed in theatre. Your presence is grounding and reassuring. Use your voice to ask questions if your partner can’t - tools like B.R.A.I.N. (Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing) are brilliant conversation starters.

Becoming a Dad

When your baby is born, you’re not just a partner anymore - you’re a dad. Some fathers feel that overwhelming rush of love instantly; for others, bonding grows over time. Both are completely normal.

Remember to check in with your own feelings. Everyone will ask how mum is doing, but you’ve just witnessed something life-changing too.

Learning the Basics

Before my own son was born, I had very little experience with babies. Like many dads, I had to learn nappies, baths, feeding cues, and how to settle him - all on the job.

Think of it as starting a new role. It feels daunting at first, but give yourself grace - you’ll get

there.

Antenatal Classes Aren’t Just for Mums

Dads deserve preparation too. I’ve co-facilitated Dads2B courses with midwives, and the feedback is always the same: having a safe space to ask “dad questions” makes a huge difference.

My antenatal courses in Linlithgow cover everything for both parents - from labour positions to feeding and postnatal life - so you both feel confident and prepared.

Here’s what one dad recently said after my course:

“Brilliant working with Joy! Absolutely top. Felt at ease throughout the training and all questions answered. Definitely recommend for any preparation prior to giving birth, or supporting someone giving birth.”

You’ve Got This

Being a dad and birth partner isn’t about being perfect - it’s about being present, prepared, and supportive. Your partner and baby need you, just as you are.

If you’re struggling with your mental health, know that support is out there - organisations like PANDAS and Andy's Man Club are a great first port of call.

I’m Joy - an antenatal teacher and perinatal therapist based in Linlithgow. I help dads across West Lothian and beyond feel confident and prepared for labour, birth and fatherhood through friendly, practical antenatal classes.

References

• Hodnett, E.D. et al. (2013). Continuous support for women during childbirth. Cochrane Pregnancy and Childbirth Group.

• NICE. (2014, updated 2023). Intrapartum care for healthy women and babies. National Institute for Health and Care Excellence.